Shalom, I have some questions regarding Noahides, Judaism, and marriage that I hope someone can shed some light on.
I am 25 years old, and I live in a country where the Jewish community is really small. I was brought up in an extremely religious protestant household. At 17, I started dating a fellow X-ian. (He is the first and only man I have dated.) However, later, I started having questions and doubts about X-ianity. My then-X-ian boyfriend agreed with me, and we both became Noahides. As the relationship developed, we started making marriage plans.
Then, last year, I found out from my parents (who were still X-ians then), that my mother had Jewish ancestry from her matrilineal line. Unfortunately they had all converted to X-ianity before I was born, which explained why I knew nothing of it. However, since Judaism is matrilineal, that would make me a Jewess too. And although I was keeping the Noahide laws, having the Jewish blood meant that I was a really sinful Jew (since I was breaking many of the 613 that were not part of the Noahide laws).
Now, after 8 years of courtship, my marriage plans have been put on hold indefinitely. A Jewish conversion process for me would probably take no less than three years since there is no way to verify the claim of my Jewish heritage. Then comes the bigger problem at hand. Judaism does not condone conversion for the purpose of marriage. Where would that leave my Noahide fiancé?
As it stands now, I am not accepted by the Jewish community as a Jew since I have not gone through my conversion process. But I am also at a loss of where to go from here. I was looking forward to spending the rest of my life with a man who loved G-d and loved me. I understand marriage in Judaism is a mitzvot, and I was hoping someone could have some advice for me.