I feel like I am trying to nail Jello to a tree here. Dan clearly said that it was all right to have sex as long as the woman was not a virgin, and you agreed with him. I repeated his allegation in a paraphrase and no one disagreed with it or clarified it. Maimonides clearly said not to have sex with any woman that you weren't married to. "Don't have relations with a woman not thus married." I agree with Maimonides here that that is what the Torah means, as well as what the Apostle Paul of the NT said. Now which is it?